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I have begun, and am going to be implementing my plan into my life with application reminders and sticky notes. I’m often so busy during the day that I forget to do things.
Daily:
Do some form of movement whether it’s yoga, stretching, Zumba, light exercises etc….
Eat one serving of fruit and some sort of vegetables
Maintain sufficient protein intake or maintenance calories
Drink 2.7 liters a day or something close to 11 cups of fluid
Do one productive thing to help me on my way to achieving my future goals
Take a shower (Not sure why I’ve added this because I am very consistent with doing this daily but it’s just a thing to keep in mind)
Weekly
Do some form of art (drawing, painting, constructing, etc….)
Read an item of literature
Attempt to be consistent and do strenuous exercise 5 days a week
Listen to some form of music
Do a conditioning treatment on my hair so it doesn’t get burnt by the chlorine in the pool from my everyday swim practices which I will be resuming very soon
Spend 2 days at the beach or out enjoying nature
Go on a long walk once a week if possible
Meditate once a week for 20 mins
Monthly
Have at least 8 days off from work
Succeed in working some muscle group in the body specifically
Spend time with at least 4 different friends and spend time with friends at least 4 times a month
Yearly
Strive to be the best version of myself
Improve some large aspects of my wellbeing
Go on a trip
1. I’ve gained a method to stay calm when speaking or performing in front of others. “The watering of a tree.” I’ve also realized how often when speaking about something I bring the pronunciation of the object/person and the words I’m using to talk about it/them into myself and make them sound personal rather than presenting the speech in a way in which it is not personal. (Detaching the conversation from myself/ making the conversation not about myself)
2. I found myself in an imaginary bliss, which does not occur often, throughout the teaching. I am often too focused on my worries, the future, and the outside world. I was able to imagine in color and see clear images in the room I was in. I am taking the ability to form the sounds and elements of words of objects with regards to objects’ shapes and structures with me. I have never done this in speech or description but I found manipulating sound emphasis to change the feel of words fascinating. (Who knew the word “giraffffffe” could be so interesting and thought provoking to not hear but also see in the mind’s eye.)
3. I am curious to learn more about the ways in which creative speech can be used in regular conversations and to convey points by captivating listeners. Which words should be emphasized? Objects, colors, sounds, smells, tastes, feelings (adjectives) or words in which sensations are revealed in the sound of the way the word is pronounced? :)
My purpose is to bring fascination to myself and others, and experience the beauty that results.
My most important memories take place in my favorite places to go now and occur while I am doing the things I currently enjoy. (star gazing, going to the beach, painting, etc.) I think I need to fascinate others with my abilities and myself and watch the beauty I create in the world. :)
In almost all areas of my life I am challenged to have self confidence.
Devotion is living in me strongly. I think this is why I am often subservient. I do not speak up and follow orders – especially those of my parents even though I am now an adult. I often don’t question if I find or am told something I don’t like. I just smile and oblige.
I experience too much devotion and too little self-confidence.
I’m noticing that I hide my feelings to keep others happy and am afraid to speak up.
I make shallow promises and am unclear with my feelings which cause deep drama and lack of emotional visibility.
I am afraid of how other’s perceive my water. I need to be calm and go with the flow.
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<li style=”box-sizing: inherit; border: 0px; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; list-style: disc; background-position: 0px 0px;”>When I have the most energy is when…A time when I was at my best was when I won a trophy at a swim meet in 2019.
What I enjoy doing the most is making others happy.
When I have the most energy is when I am happy and surrounded by nice people.
<ul style=”box-sizing: inherit; border: 0px; font-size: 12px; margin: 0px 15px 15px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; list-style: none; caret-color: #5b6875; color: #5b6875; font-family: ‘Open Sans’, sans-serif; background-position: 0px 0px;”>In stressful situations I’ve been noticing my anxiety and accepting it. Instead of beating myself up for being anxious and asking myself why I’m anxious and telling myself it’s “stupid” that I’m anxious I’ve been comforting myself. I’ve started to have empathy for my own emotions and have begun removing myself from stressful situations. I feel a lot less stressed by doing these things. While I have compassion for others, I still really need to focus on myself.
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<li style=”box-sizing: inherit; border: 0px; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; list-style: disc; background-position: 0px 0px;”>In what ways have you been initiated by your relationships?
<li style=”box-sizing: inherit; border: 0px; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; list-style: disc; background-position: 0px 0px;”>What do you see as your most useful and available feminine and/or masculine qualities? (see the Relational Awareness topic slide deck and resources section for more considerations on the masculine and feminine qualities)
<li style=”box-sizing: inherit; border: 0px; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; list-style: disc; background-position: 0px 0px;”>What masculine and/or feminine qualities do you struggle to connect with?
<li style=”box-sizing: inherit; border: 0px; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; list-style: disc; background-position: 0px 0px;”>Which masculine and/or feminine qualities to you think might be expressing in an unhealthy way within you?
<li style=”box-sizing: inherit; border: 0px; font-style: inherit; margin: 0px; outline: 0px; padding: 0px; vertical-align: baseline; list-style: disc; background-position: 0px 0px;”>Are there times in your life when you take on the codependent victim role, and how might you shift into the creator role?I’m not sure how to answer the first question but id say when I develop a liking for someone, it has to do more with their personality (humor, intelligence, etc) than their looks. I like to say that I am Sapiosexual; meaning that I am attracted to other intelligent people.
My most useful and available feminine qualities are my openness and receptiveness.
I struggle to connect with my flow and intentions in relationships.
I think I express my focus in an unhealthy way.
I don’t usually take the co-dependent victim role but I think if I was uncomfortable and in a relationship I would communicate with the other person and either create a better situation or remove myself from the situation.
My main inner saboteurs are the avoider, the hyper-achiever pleaser, and the judge. I see the avoider when I’m scared to face someone or do something. I see the hyper-achiever pleaser when I want to make a good impression, and I see the judge mostly from myself when I tend to overthink about the thoughts of others.
Common enemies of learning
-I should already know!
-Granting no authority to be taught
-I have no time!
Advise from wiser self: Make time. Allow yourself to be taught. Accept that you can’t and don’t always know everything. Stop avoiding your priorities. Other people aren’t as important – try pleasing yourself for a change. You are your biggest critique – stop judging yourself!
I will engage positively with anyone who tries to support me! :)
I follow the rule of not being my true authentic self to fit in with society’s stereotypes. I set this rule up for myself because I often got told that I was weird when I was younger. I guess this isn’t fair to myself as I often feel out of place and like a social lemming.
A new rule for me would be to express my true authentic self and to be confident in my own skin. I’d like to be comfortable with who I am and not care what people think.
I can be too communicative at times. I’ve noticed that if I communicate or complain to people I can’t trust they may turn my complaints into twisted gossip. This happened to me at work recently. I was exhausted and I told my colleague how it was really hard for me to work because I was tired all the time since my work is right after practice. When I quit due to an ankle injury from our mountain excursion in Colorado, they told other staff members about my complaints and twisted my words into things I never said. Eventually this information went to my boss which stunk. I spoke to my boss and explained that I only told one person about my situation but she didn’t believe me as she’d heard from many. I learnt that in the future I should just communicate directly with my boss to avoid unnecessary conflict. I think this was an issue with pride for me. I didn’t want to let people down as I was the only stocker they had and I was proud of my job despite being in agonizing pain almost everyday. I wish I had let myself be more honest and less communicative with the wrong people. I hope to express my vulnerability more in the future. I have been noticing how I handle some situations incorrectly.
